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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I know that this is for dating advice but I need some words to say to my husband. We have a 17-year old teenage girl and he is so tough on her with her dating young boys. He makes sure he meets every boy who is even a friend of hers, he questions every boy who wants to spend time with her in any way. She doesn’t have a boyfriend. She loves sports and is active in school. How can I get him to “back-off” regarding our daughter’s dating?

When & How to Speak Up

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: My husband wants me to deposit every cent of my paycheck into our joint account, when he promised me that he would “take care of me” and pay bills for our marriage. He says I can take out a certain amount without discussing with him, but he wants us to agree on anything spent beyond $250. He goes food shopping with me, and we have to “bargain” about prices of vegetables, fruit, meat, etc. I don’t like this. What can I say to him about this?

Laura: Based on what you are sharing with me, I suspect the issues are more complex than a simple answer I could give you here. On the surface it appears that he is not keeping his agreement to you about taking care of you, and now he is wanting to require conditions for you that he didn’t discuss with you prior to your marriage, but as I previously stated, I do not view this as a simple Q AND A. I think that ultimately it would be best for the two of you to seek some relationship counseling to both be heard and have a trained professional to assist you in each expressing your wants, thoughts and feelings to assist you in making the best agreements for your relationship with consideration to your current circumstances.

Dealing with Thorny Issues with Other People

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: My husband bought his secretary a really beautiful Gold necklace for Christmas. He did get me gifts, but it hurt me that he got her something so personal. What can I say to him?

Laura: I presume you know that he bought this necklace for her because there was full disclose and no attempts by your husband to hide this purchase from you or hide who it was for from you. Unless there is tangible information that suggests that your husband has an inappropriate relationship with his secretary, I don’t see a good reason for you to say anything to him. It may not feel good to you, but at the same time I don’t believe it is in your best interest to make an issue of this to your husband and cause discord between the two of you. There should be some level of platonic affection and appreciation for the people one works closely with, and extending a lovely gift to those people at Christmas time is thoughtful and kind.

Celebrity Colorist Michael Canale Tells Us Why it’s Never Too Early to Start Thinking about Your Hair Colour for Your Wedding

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You may think it’s too early to start planning for your June wedding but Celebrity Colourist Michael Canale suggests starting focusing on your colour now.

Lives of Style: When do you start working with clients who are planning for their Big Day?

Michael: About six to nine months before a wedding. It’s important to meet with my client and their stylist so that we can start moving colour. After you have picked your dress we can talk about how you want to wear your hair. And I adjust the colour to the hairstyle.

Lives of Style: What is the process like?

Michael: A lot of times we do a set of highlights to bring the colour to where we want it and then, when the stylist shows me exactly what they are going to do, I accent the highlights three to five days before the wedding.

How to Handle Those Sticky Holiday Dramas

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I’m pregnant and my husband keeps accepting holiday invitations for us without asking me. I’m due at the end of January so I don’t feel that great right now physically. I don’t want to get into a fight with him but I can’t keep up to my normal schedule. What can I say to him? And I know his response might be that they are all work parties and he has to go for networking purposes. How do I respond to that if he says it?

Laura: You can say, “Honey, I want to talk with you about something that I am struggling with right now. Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, “Yes.” Then you can say, “I completely respect and understand that it may be in your best interest to attend all of these holiday events for the sake of business. I certainly do not want to hinder that in any way, but I am really struggling with feeling poorly and exhausted. I don’t want to disappoint you, but it is just not comfortable for me at this stage of pregnancy to be so socially active. What are your thoughts about what to do in order for us both to be comfortable?”

HOW TO LOOK AMAZING THIS WINTER. TIPS FROM JENNIFER ANISTON’S MASTER HAIR COLORIST

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Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2015, provides expert advice on hair color, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Congratulations! Michael Canale was named “Best Colorist” for Jennifer Aniston’s color in Elle’s August 2015 issue.

Lives of Style: What is the trend for hot winter hair color?

Michael: Most people are misguided into thinking that you should go darker in the winter. There’s nothing worse than looking darker in gloomy weather. We are doing thinner, more natural highlights that are brighter—not so summery, but with enough brightness to keep people upbeat and happy. We need more “happy hair” in the winter.

Lives of Style: A lot of women want to change their hair color and tend to want to do that in the winter months. How do you work with your clients?

Michael: Bring them up to blonde. When I meet with my clients who want to go blonde I will talk with them and create a blonde that suits their coloring, lifestyle and vision. I ask them, “How often do you want to touch up your hair? Do you want highlights or base color and highlights.”

Lives of Style: What do you look at when creating a color?

Michael: I can tell what hair is going to do–if you lift the color it will be warm, and I know how the hair is going to react to coloring. I am known for creating a natural look so I pay attention to how much red is in hair or skin–or if the client has yellow hue to her skin, I might want to lift her a little, but keep her close to her natural color so it works with her whole persona. If a client wants to be blonde, my job is to make her the right blonde. It will be a different tone based on her coloring.

Have a Holiday Party and Need a Date?

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I have had one great date with a man and he asked me out for the following Sunday.  I just got asked out to a black tie event for the Saturday before. Can I ask him to go with me and still be feminine? And how would I do that?

Laura:  Keep in mind that there is the risk that he may decline and you shouldn’t take it personally or hold it against him if he does. As long as you are willing to accept either a yes or a no, then go ahead and send him a text and write, “I am really looking forward to seeing you next Sunday. There is something I want to ask you. Would you call me when it is convenient for you, please?” When he calls or if he tells you to just ask him by text, then you can communicate, “I know it is short notice, so I will understand if you say no.  I just got invited to a black tie event on Saturday (insert date and time), and I don’t have an escort. Do you want to go with me?”

Find out how to get Jennifer Aniston’s Golden Glow

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Jennifer Aniston is blessed with a beauty that at once is radiant, sexy, approachable and sophisticated. And she always looks amazing on the red carpet. We sat down with Master Celebrity Colorist Michael Canale to talk about how he creates some of the most iconic looks in hair color on none other than Jennifer Aniston.

Lives of Style: What did you do for Jennifer Aniston?  She looked spectacular at the 2015 American Cinematheque Awards.

Michael: Still maintaining the depth we glamour-ed up the hair color. We went back to brighter hair and brightened the hairline and the crown. We layered a natural set of highlights and then we went  back and placed highlights to bring out that natural appearance–to enhance it.  It is a sun-kissed look–so it appears as if she is out in the sun–under the lights.

How to Maximize You Conversational Power

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I have only gone out on one date with someone and he asked me out for dinner then said he would send a cab for me to pick me up and take me to the restaurant. He just texted me that he wants to change the plans and he wants to make dinner for us at his house. I don’t feel comfortable going to his house. What can I text back to him?

Laura: You can say, “You have every right to want to change our plans, and I appreciate that you want to cook for us at your house. I am not ready to do that at this time, as we have only been out once. I would feel most comfortable getting to know each other a bit more before going to your home. What are your thoughts about us sticking to your original suggestion to send a cab to pick me up and take me to the restaurant you choose for us?”

Communication How To’s to Handle the Most Uncomfortable Conversations

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I dressed up for Halloween as a sexy pirate. It was a cute costume but it didn’t show too much. My date when he saw me was very complimentary. We went to a party and I swear I could of be invisible. He kept looking at these girls in barely there costumes. I didn’t know what to say or do. How can I address this?

Laura: I don’t know how well you know this man, as you did not give any information as to whether it was a first date, second date or someone you have been dating regularly. What you did state clearly is that he was very complimentary to you when he saw you, and that is a good thing. As far as your date looking at the women in barely there costumes, I think that it is fairly normal that where there are scantily clad women, men are going to notice and look. In all honesty, even heterosexual women are going to notice and look. It’s human nature.

Is it possible that what you experienced was coming from an internal feeling of inadequacy? I want you to first think about the following things before you decide if you should bring it up. Has this man had a pattern of being distracted by looking at other women in general at other times when you have been out with him? How do you typically feel when you are in the company of this man? Did this man interact with any of the other women in a flirty way that night or has he shown any pattern of inappropriate behavior with other women that you have witnessed?

Having said that, if this man was truly so intensely engrossed in staring at all of these women to the point that he completely ignored you all night, then I think you have every right to say this to him the next time he asks you out.

You can say, “Thank you for asking. I want to talk with you about something before I answer you. Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, “Yes.” Then you can say, “You had every right to put your attention where you wanted to. I want you to know that it really felt good to me when you complimented me on my Halloween costume the other night, but then when we went to the party it appeared to me that you were very distracted looking at all of the women in skimpy costumes, and it really didn’t feel good to me that you seemed more engrossed in looking at them than paying attention to me. You may think that I was being oversensitive, but I want to be honest with you about how it appeared and felt to me. What are your thoughts about what I am sharing with you?”

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