Tricky Communication Techniques

Dating

Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I’m 62 and have been divorced for 2 decades, but I’ve decided I really want to find a partner. I’ve been online for a few months and recently had an early morning date with a man who seemed interesting. The only thing that bothered me was that he kept saying, “There are lots of rich divorcees out there,” but then he’d change the subject and say that he is looking for a woman to spoil and cherish. What can I say to “flush him out”? We have another date next weekend.

Laura: It is hard to know the reason why he kept saying that since he did not elaborate and give a reason for it. Also, sometimes people babble and say random things on first dates out of nervousness. Pay attention to see that the majority of what he speaks about is in line with him wanting to be a gentleman who will cherish a woman he is with. If he makes that comment again at that time you can say, “I have noticed that you have mentioned several times that there are a lot of rich divorcees out there. I want to understand what meaning that has to you, but I honestly do not know how to respond to that. What are your thoughts about that, and what is your reason for mentioning it to me several times?”

Follow These Celebrity Tried-and-True Tips for Lasting Hair Color

Celebrity Hair Jennifer Aniston

Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2015, provides expert advice on hair color, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Our Lives of Style Authority: Master Colorist to the Stars: Michael Canale–in the business for over 30 years, is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colorists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colorist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

Canale shares tips on how to get and keep the color you want.

Lives of Style: What should you do before you go to the salon which can help your colorist get the correct color?

Michael: Clean your hair before you go to the salon for color. While there is some controversy about this, it is a fact that it takes longer for the chemicals to break through dirt to perform the reaction desired. If the hair is not too dirty, the dirt will help protect the scalp from the sometimes harsh reaction to the skin. “Too dirty” is a relative term, and includes styling products and processes. So you should always have a clean head when you plan on getting your hair colored. And you should always wear your hair as you normally do. If you don’t then you might get a look that you wont like on an everyday basis. So if you usually wear your hair straight go to the salon with straight hair. If you usually curl your hair go to the salon with curls. This will give your stylist a set idea of what will look good on you on a day to day basis.

What to Say in Any Dating Situation

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: My crush just told me that he isn’t interested in getting serious right now. We have gone out a few times only and haven’t had sex yet. He said that he wants to continue hanging out with me because he likes me. What do I do with this?

Laura: Hanging out is a term for keeping it cool and casual, and he also separately told you that he isn’t interested in getting serious right now. He is being clear and honest, which is good. You can certainly continue to accept invitations with him, but it is in your best interest to also continue accepting dates with other men who ask you out to avoid hyper-focusing on this one guy who is not showing any indication that he wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you. Separately, it is in your best interest not to have sex with him or anyone until or unless you do enter an exclusive relationship to avoid the pain and complications of becoming sexually and emotionally bonded to someone who is not committed to you.

Tips on How to Get the Perfect Hair Color from Celebrity Colorist Michael Canale

Jennifer Aniston Beautiful Hair

 

Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2015, provides expert advice on hair color, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Our Lives of Style Authority: Master Colorist to the Stars: Michael Canale–in the business for over 30 years, is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colorists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colorist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

Canale shares tips to get the color you want.

Lives of Style: If someone hasn’t gone to a professional colorist before and their hair is brassy so they are ready to what should they say to their colorist so it doesn’t become a coloring disaster?

Michael: I’m glad that you’re taking the leap to get the color that you want. Be specific with your colorist. If you don’t like warm tones, tell your colorist you don’t want any red in your color. People confuse warmth with caramel, when caramel is actually gold.

Working with your natural base color always delivers the most natural results. Using a color mixture your colorist should connect your summer shade with highlights in the darker root area for a natural blend. And top with a gloss to add dimension and depth.

Lives of Style: How much lighter can you go from your natural color?

Michael: Keep your highlights within one or two shades of your natural color. If you go over two shades, you’ll produce a flawed result that will shift in the days after your treatment, and you’ll lose control of the final product.

Your Dating Questions Answered

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style:  If a man who I like asks me to go away for a weekend, can I say, “yes” if we are not yet in a relationship? Or do I need to negotiate a relationship first?

Laura: You can say, “yes” to what you feel comfortable doing. It’s up to you to decide what your boundaries and comforts are. If you are totally accepting of a casual relationship, then you could agree to going casually.

If you are dating with the purpose of finding a serious relationship then my suggestion is that you let him know you don’t feel comfortable sleeping in the same room with or having sex with him or anyone unless you are in an exclusive relationship. You can say, “Thank you for inviting me to go away with you. I would love to go, but since I don’t know what you have in mind for accommodations I want to be honest with you and tell you that I have traditional values and do not feel comfortable sharing a room with a man who I am not in an exclusive relationship with. What are your thoughts?”

If you would rather decline until you are in an exclusive relationship, then you can say, “Thank you for inviting me. It sounds fun, however I do not feel comfortable going away with a man who I am not in an exclusive relationship with. What are your thoughts?”

How to Handle Any Thorny Communications Issues

Dating

Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: My husband has a work/live space in his artistic studio and he was working late and suggested that he sleep in his studio. Right away I felt rejected. How can I talk with him in the future so I don’t have hurt feelings?

Laura: If your husband was working hard late into the night with the knowledge that he had another long day ahead of him the next, then he was probably weighing all of that and concluded that staying in his studio was a more logical choice for him that evening. For some reason you received that information as something personal against you. Feelings come as they come without logic, so it may be a matter of remembering to stop and think before you respond from an emotional place.

In the future when a similar issue arises you can say, “Honey, thank you for telling me your suggestion about (insert subject). You have every right to do what you want, however I want to be honest and tell you that I am feeling sensitive about you doing that. I don’t want to be selfish, and I do want support your decision in doing what’s best for you in this situation. It would feel best to me if this wasn’t a frequent occurrence because I love sleeping with you at night. What are your thoughts?”

How to Avoid Confrontational Fireworks in Your Relationships

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: A man who I have dated four times asked me to be his girlfriend. I’m not that attracted to him but he’s very successful and we have “nice” dates. What should I say to him because I’m not sure he’s the one?

Laura: In order to have a mutually fulfilling relationship there needs to be an equitable amount of chemistry, compatibility, honesty, and the ability to communicate and negotiate with each other. It sounds to me like you do like this man, but you don’t feel the romantic chemistry at this time necessary to commit yourself to him in a relationship.
If you were a man I would suggest ending it at t his point because men are designed to know right away if they find a woman physically attractive. Women are built differently. It doesn’t happen in every case, but as a woman it is sometimes possible to become more attracted to a man over time as you get to know him.

However, since he is asking you to be his girlfriend right now, he deserves to know where you stand currently. You could say, “I want to talk with you about what you asked me in regards to wanting me to be your girlfriend.  Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, “Yes.” Then you can say, “I like you and enjoy our dates. I also respect you and want to be completely honest with you. At this time I do not feel a strong enough romantic chemistry to accept becoming your girlfriend. I do not know if the chemistry will develop more over time or not, and I do not want to be deceitful or lead you on. I understand completely if you do not want to take that risk and continue to date me knowing this. What are your thoughts about what I am telling you?”

Handle Any Dating Dilemma Ease

First Date

Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: My current #1 is Dan. He just texted that he is free on Sunday night or Monday for lunch. It’s easier for me to go on a date on a Sunday night than slipping away from the office to have a lunch date however I have daytime plans on Sunday with another man. Should I change the plans to be available for my date on Sunday night because I don’t like to have two dates in one day?

Laura: You can certainly change the daytime Sunday plans if you want to, however I want you to consider a few important things. You are still in the stage of dating where you are accepting dates with various men and have not been asked to be exclusive yet. With that in mind, the gentleman who asked you out for Sunday during the day made a point to secure a date with you first, which indicates that it was a priority. Although you have ranked Dan as your #1, since he has not yet asked you to date him exclusively we have no way of knowing at this time where you rank with him. Rankings with men can change depending on each experience you have getting to know them, how strongly the chemistry builds between you, how much they make seeing you a priority, and how they treat you.

Integrity caries energy as well, therefore it is my opinion that it would be best to keep your word and honor the date you agreed to with the gentleman for Sunday during the day. As for Dan, if you really want to see him also, then say “yes’ to the date on Sunday evening and accept that you will have a full day and evening, or meet him for lunch on Monday. Think about which of the two dates with Dan would feel more comfortable, and pick that one.

Michael Canale Shares Best Summer Hair Color Trends

Jennifer Aniston Summer Hair

As a master colorist, in the business for over 30 years, Michael Canale is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colorists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colorist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

Canale shares tips to get summer-worthy locks that will have you looking ready for the beach.

Lives of Style: Summer is almost here. Can you change your hair color for the season?

Canale: Yes! You can move your color for the season. The looks I am creating are summer worthy. I start moving my clients into summer colors in the middle of spring. It is a natural blonding effect.

Lives of Style: What are the hottest hair color trends for summer?

Canale: It’s the sun-kissed blond. I give my clients more pop around the face and then use the sun to work with us to remove the oxidation. A lot of hair cannot handle us pulling bleach through to the ends so we use the sun to remove the dullness of oxidation. It is a gradual lightening to get you into a position where your ends are lightened by the sun so your hair doesn’t break off and it looks great.

Lives of Style: Is there anything you can do at home to get your ends looking more sun-kissed?

LEAP to Success. The Leap Foundation helps Motivate America’s Youth

Leap Foundation

What does it take to be more successful? That’s a question many of us ask ourselves each year.

Students ranging from grades 9-12 and young adults 18-24 have a chance to get exposure to groundbreakers in various fields.

For over 20 years, the Leadership, Excellence, Accelerating Potential Foundation (LEAP) has been working with students across the country to expose them to leaders in various industries to give them skills for successful living.

Grammy winning artist Usher, Actress Eva Longoria, Actor Seth Green, Actress Neicy Nash, LEAP Founder Dr. Bill Dorfman, James Malinchak Author of “Chicken Soup for the College Soul” have participated in LEAP Foundation sharing their experience and inspiration to the next generation.

Seth Green told participants, “The best advice I ever heard was to never quit. I know that it sounds really simple but it is exactly that simple, you can’t really fail if you don’t quit.”

The 2015 LEAP Foundation Program runs from July 12th through the 18th at UCLA’s Westwood Campus. The LEAP High School Program (grades 9–12) and The LEAP Young Adult Program (18-24 year olds) run concurrently during the week and have the same core-curriculum.

Participants of the program learn about goal sharing, professionalism, mentorship, effective communication, self-motivation and other techniques so they can acquire skills needed to achieve great success at an early age.

One element of the program is the Mentor roundtables where over 100 leaders in various industries are available to provide the keys to their success to participants.

Celebrity Hair Colorist Michael Canale, known for Jennifer Aniston’s beautiful hair color, said, “We wanted to participate actively with the Leap Foundation to build community and empower the youth to follow their dreams and do something great and impactful for the world.”

If you want to find out more information about the Leap Foundation’s Program visit http://leapfoundation.com/.

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