How to Handle Tricky Situations

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2014 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I’m attracted to my new father-in-law. Not really as a sexual attraction, but he’s so interesting, intelligent and fun to be with, that he makes my husband seem–well, boring. How can I speak to my husband about being more interesting, or at least more engaged with life?

Laura: Your husband is his own person, and it is not in either one of your best interest to compare him against his father or any man. From what you are sharing it appears that he is a different personality than your father-in-law. You were interested in him enough to marry him, so he must have some qualities you love. My suggestion for you is to first make it a point stop engaging your father-in-law as much in order not to keep encouraging your crush. It is not healthy for you or your marriage to be focused on your father-in-law and make comparisons to your husband that leave your husband falling short in your eyes. What you could do is sit down and make a list of all of the positive qualities your husband has that you fell in love with. Ask him to do the things that you know interest him that you did together before, and talk about things you know he is interested in that you could bond with him over.

You could say, “Honey I was thinking about when we used to (insert some activities he enjoys that you used to do together), and I really miss us doing those things together. What are your thoughts about us making a point to do things like that together again regularly?” Also, choose some subjects that you know he is knowledgeable about and say, “Honey, I know you know a lot about (insert subjects), and I would love to learn about it from you. What are your thoughts about telling me about it.” Respect, encourage, and love him for who he is. Engage him with interest, and make it a priority to put your focus back where it belongs.

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak™©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication. We are audience-based and questions directed at us at LoS DatingSpeak™©2015 or our authorities may not appear due to limited space.
Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.
Here are questions posed by our audience: 

Lives of Style: I have been asked out on a first date from a man who lives out of town. He asked me out for Thursday at 6:30pm. I don’t finish work until 7p and couldn’t meet him until 8p. I asked to see if he could do another day and he replied that he couldn’t because he was leaving town. What can I say because I am not on my “A Game” after a long day of work?

Laura: If you have an interest in this man, then I think you should do your best to meet him while he is in town. You could say to him, “Thank you for inviting me out. I want to say yes, but unfortunately I will still be at work at the time you suggested on Thursday. I would be able to meet you by 8pm on Thursday if you want to do that. What are your thoughts?”

Date Smart with these Communication Tools

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2014 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I have a crush on a boy much younger than me. He is just 18 and I’m 24. I met him when I was jogging, and he always smiles at me. I spoke with him at the finish line of a local 5K race–he spoke first, and now he asked me to have coffee with him. I like him, but I’m concerned about the age difference. What can I say?

Laura: Right now I think you could just say, “Yes” to the coffee date, and see where that leads. You are both of legal consenting age, you like him, and he was masculine enough to ask you out. There’s a good start!

Apple’s Cool Factor Gets Girls

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By ELISABETH LAURENCE

 

Measure a man by his iPhone.

A few years ago hip clothes, expensive shoes and a first-rate haircut would connote a cool guy who attracted the most beautiful women.

But now, it’s an iPhone 6 or 6+.

Of course, Apple’s been a covetable commodity since the second coming of Steve Jobs—who knew—without focus groups or crowd sourcing—what people want.

But with the iPhone 6 and 6+ Tim Cook and Jony Ive and their teams tapped into essence of iPower. Carrying an iPhone not only makes its owners feel and look successful. It moves women to judge a man’s appeal by his phone.

Phone sex takes on a whole new meaning.

Academy Award Winning Hair…the Winner is Jennifer Aniston

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Lights Camera Action.

Celebrities strut down the red carpet in Hollywood style, and ultimate Golden Girl Jennifer Aniston continues to outshine them all in her designer duds.

“It’s been a pretty zen year – and thankfully,” Aniston, told Carson Daly on NBC at the Golden Globes, “I feel like a kid!”

Aniston continues to be the reigning queen of perfect hair and her colorist–Michael Canale, is the director of her perfect hue.

Canale is the celebrity hair colorist who has worked with Aniston for over twenty years co-creating “The Rachel” with her hairstylist Chris McMillan–and now bringing her present day tone to an enviable natural blonde.

For the Oscars Canale bumped up Aniston’s color, making her brighter and brighter over past months. He says the color, “looks like camera lights are shining on her blonde strands but there’s no light, it’s her color.” It is sun-kissed at it’s best.

Canale pops the color around the hairline, applying paper-thin raw highlights that create lightness. Afterward, a special gloss locks in the color.

It’s the prefect natural look that takes a master to create.

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Wanderlust with Prabal Gurung for Fall Winter 2015 at NYFW

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Prabal Gurung was quoted at his Fall Winter show saying that he loves a woman of substance.

 

One could say the same of his latest collection, which was inspired by the Adirondack Mountains.

 

Gurung admixed minimalism infused with references to the natural world, like a snow leopard printed velvet coat and a shift dress resembling white cliffs.

Dennis Basso’s Disco Queens for Fall Winter 2015 NYFW

Dennis Basso FW 2015

It was all about the American hustle at Dennis Basso’s Fall Winter show at NYFW.

 

Inspired by the stylish jet setters of the disco era, there was no shortage of glamour. Models were swathed in velvet drape gowns in metallic gold. Ensembles brought to mind Studio 54 in its heyday—with highlights reminiscent of the ‘70’s, such as hand-beaded brocade frocks, chiffon jumpsuits and slinky bias cut halters.

La Dolce Vita with Badgley Mischka Fall Winter 2015 at NYFW

Badgley Mischka FW 2015

Following a holiday at a 450 year-old monastery in Cartagena, Columbia, Mark Badgley and James Mischka infused their Fall Winter collection with retro allure worthy of the silver screen. Hourglass silhouettes and beauty queen beehives were reminiscent of ‘60’s femme fatales Sofia Loren and Brigitte Bardot.

How to Take Care of Yourself in the Dating Arena

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2014 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: A friend of mine who I have known for years told me that my boyfriend is cheating on me. We all go to the same school and she said that he flirts with a girl in their class and she swears she saw him kiss her. I don’t know what to say to him.

Laura: You mentioned that you have known this friend for years, so I am presuming you think she is a valuable and trustworthy person. It is completely up to you if you want to talk with him about it. If you do choose to speak with him and he says it’s not true, then you will most likely have upset feeling and will have to decide whether you want to believe your friend or your boyfriend.

When and if you are ready you to take the risk of that possibility, you can say to your boyfriend, “I want to talk with you about something very upsetting to me that I heard involving you. Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, “Yes.” Then you can say, “Someone I know well told me that they saw you flirting with and also kissing (insert full name if you have it–if not describe her and mention that it’s in his class). It was very upsetting to hear that, and I don’t want to make this about who saw it. I just want to be fair to you and ask you if it’s all-true, any part of it is true, or if somehow there was a misunderstanding of what was witnessed. What are your thoughts about what I am sharing with you?”

How to Handle Dating Misconceptions

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2014 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Lives of Style: I was just watching CBS News in the morning and they said it’s okay to go up and talk to a guy. I’m trying to be feminine and this confuses me so what can I say to a man when I first meet him to let him know that I am interested?

Laura: You can certainly take CBS News’s advise and go up to a man and ask him out if you want to, however you mentioned that you are working on being feminine.

A feminine energy based person responds to, and is passive, patient, vulnerable, receptive and respectful to the lead of a masculine energy based person. A masculine energy based person competes for, conquers, and fights to gain control over all other masculine energy people to win over and get the feminine energy based person he most wants. He will then give, protect and cherish that feminine energy based person and be rewarded by her respect and receptiveness to his lead.

What’s most confusing today is that there are many women walking around pursuing and dating in the masculine energy, and a lot of men are responding and dating in the feminine energy. If it works for you, then have at it and enjoy! The problem is that it doesn’t work well for most people long-term because at some point the reversal of the energy roles can take a huge toll and cause resentments and fighting.

So, if you want to stay in your feminine energy then smile a lot while keeping eye contact for at least five seconds with a guy to whom you feel most attracted. If you happen to find yourself around a specific guy who you are attracted to, then make a point to flirt with him to signal a different interest in him than in other males who may be around. If he is truly interested in you, then he will figure it out that you are attracted to him and do something about it.

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