Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2015 addresses questions about dating, relationships and communication.
Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.
Lives of Style: I’m 62 and have been divorced for 2 decades, but I’ve decided I really want to find a partner. I’ve been online for a few months and recently had an early morning date with a man who seemed interesting. The only thing that bothered me was that he kept saying, “There are lots of rich divorcees out there,” but then he’d change the subject and say that he is looking for a woman to spoil and cherish. What can I say to “flush him out”? We have another date next weekend.
Laura: It is hard to know the reason why he kept saying that since he did not elaborate and give a reason for it. Also, sometimes people babble and say random things on first dates out of nervousness. Pay attention to see that the majority of what he speaks about is in line with him wanting to be a gentleman who will cherish a woman he is with. If he makes that comment again at that time you can say, “I have noticed that you have mentioned several times that there are a lot of rich divorcees out there. I want to understand what meaning that has to you, but I honestly do not know how to respond to that. What are your thoughts about that, and what is your reason for mentioning it to me several times?”