Navigating the Road to a Great Relationship

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication. Lives of Style is committed to helping you achieve your own best style–in fashion, beauty and in life.

Lives of Style and Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 want to facilitate answers to questions. While Lives of Style’s authorities in different categories may not be able to email each of you individually, select questions will be answered.

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Our Lives of Style relationship authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Darlene:  What can I say to get closer to a man at work who I am attracted to?  I saw him at a seminar and he and I made eye contact but the meeting broke up early and I never had a chance to speak with him. (I know the department in which he works.)

Laura: Considering that this is a work place for both of you, I would suggest first making sure you know if there are any company policies with regard to engaging in romantic relationships. Next I suggest that you discretely ask around to find out if he is single. If you know someone who knows him or has a connection to him who is trustworthy, then you can ask for help.

With all of that in mind, here is my suggestion.

It is contingent upon having a person you know check in with him–less confrontational if he is not available or not interested–to find out if he is single. If he is, then that person could mention you–let him know you find him attractive, and offer him your  social media info. This way he could see you and decide if he finds you attractive as well. Men are initially very visual.  Then the person could say, ”She would love to hear from you if you want to make contact.” He will know you are interested without you doing or saying anything awkward, directly. If he finds you attractive and also wants to make the connection, then he has prior knowledge that you are receptive, along with a way to initiate contact.

Stephanie: I’m an older woman of 72 and my husband passed away two years ago. I’m still lively and active and want to experience love once more. I met a kind gentleman at our Senior Center and he asked to walk me home. I refused, because I didn’t know him personally. But I am responsive to him and would like to see him. What can I say to him when I see him again at the Center?

Laura: You could say, “It is great to see you again. I want to thank you again for your offer to walk with me when we last saw each other. It was so thoughtful of you. I want you to know that I would love to take you up on that offer if it is still something you want to do. What are your thoughts about us doing that now or sometime soon?”

Louise: My ex-boyfriend wanted to experience “life,” and to travel so he broke up with me 11 months ago. Now he’s returned and wants to get back together and even says he would be open to marrying me. I still love him but am wary. What could I say to him?

Laura: I imagine you felt sadness when he made that choice, and that is completely understandable. I am going to ask you to look at this from a different perspective right now. Your ex-boyfriend was in touch with himself enough and had the integrity to be completely honest with you. He let you go because he realized that he could not give you the attention and commitment that you wanted and are worth at that time. He needed that time to explore whatever it is he needed to explore and grow to become ready for a full commitment that includes marriage. If you still care for and have attraction to this man, then I strongly suggest you take the risk to give him the chance to show you who he has grown to be, and see what he has to offer to you now. Sometimes people need to grow away from you to evolve to their fullest potential.

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Go Blonde and Get Healthy Hair

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Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2016, provides expert advice on hair colour, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Our Lives of Style Authority: Master Colourist to the Stars: Michael Canale–in the business for over 30 years, is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colourists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colourist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

The summer is almost over and if your like millions of women who love being light blonde, you’re hair might be fried from colour, heat, chlorine and more. One of Canale’s greatest talents is making your hair look sun-kissed while keeping it healthy. He shares tips for ensuring that your tresses shine.

Lives of Style: If a client’s hair is very dry from using heat from a hairdryer and a flat iron in addition to highlights what can she do before colouring to minimize breakage?

Michael: Your hair can get brittle if you are over bleaching or over using heat. It’s important to let your colourist know what’s really going on. I’ve always suggest cutting after colouring so your hair cutter can clean up the hair once it’s been done.

I also want to mention that if you are changing your hairstyle then you should always colour afterward. The colourist needs to see what you’ve done so they can make it perfect. I want to see where the style is so I can highlight specifically to it.

Lives of Style: What do you suggest to improve the health of the hair?

Michael: This is a common problem with people colouring their hair today.  First, I suggest using a deep conditioner daily.  An easy at home remedy for breakage is a moisture bath for your hair.  Blend together an avocado with almond oil and vitamin E oil and let it soak onto the hair before you shampoo and condition.

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Fall into Brilliant Bright Hair Color

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Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2016, provides expert advice on hair color, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Our Lives of Style Authority: Master Colorist to the Stars: Michael Canale–in the business for over 30 years, is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colorists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colorist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

Most people think that you shouldn’t brighten up your hair in the fall and winter months. Canale sets the record straight. 

Lives of Style: Do you suggest to your celebrity clients to brighten up their hair colour in the winter?

Michael: It’s a fallacy to let your hair go dull during the dismal times of the year.  So always brighten up your hair.

Lives of Style: How bright should you make it?

Michael: You can make it subtle. You wouldn’t make it a California blonde but you can subtly “cheer” up your hair. The best way to do this is to do paper thin highlights.  They lighten and illuminate your look.

Try it and let us know how it works for you!

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Top Three Tips for Getting Star-Worthy Hair Color

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Lives of Style’s Monday with Michael ™ ©2016, provides expert advice on hair color, styling, care and conditioning—for a more beautiful YOU.

Our Lives of Style Authority: Master Colorist to the Stars: Michael Canale–in the business for over 30 years, is renowned for creating natural sun-streaked hair and classic blonde shades that get raves.

One of Hollywood’s most sought-after colorists, Canale’s clients have included movie star royalty like Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Heidi Klum, Carolyn Murphy, Carmen Electra, Denise Richards and more.

Canale is a staple on Allure’s “Best of the Best” as a superior hair colorist who “lightens blondes to a baby-like perfection.”

Canale shares tips on how to get and keep the color you want.  Three of the most important tips Michael gives you are:

Tip #1. Clean before you colour
If you want healthy hair, wash it before you go to your colorist. It takes longer for the chemicals to break through dirt to perform the reaction desired, so you should always have a clean head when you plan on getting your hair colored.

Tip #2. Pre-style before you go to the salon
Always wear your hair as you normally do. If you don’t then you might get a look that you wont like on an everyday basis. So if you usually wear your hair straight go to the salon with straight hair. If you usually curl your hair go to the salon with curls. This will give your stylist a set idea of what will look good on you on a day to day basis.

Tip #3. Hot water causes fading
We all know heat opens up the cuticle this is where the color pigment molecules are. So if you are wondering why your color never sticks and you are taking showers that could heat up some pasta–that is your problem and you should wash your hair with lukewarm water or better yet cold.

Try these easy tips for lasting color and send us pics of your luscious locks.

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The making of a red carpet darling

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The making of an eye-catching, red carpet darling takes a team: a beautiful celebrity, a world-renowned stylist, a A-list make-up artist and a hair team extraordinaire.

Elizabeth Hurley blasted onto the scene with her provocative Versace safety pin dress. Jennifer Aniston became America’s darling with the “Rachel,” and millions of women attempted to copy her look. Even Kim Kardashian needed a team to become “Kim.”

During the Cannes Film Festival Misha Burton was re-discovered as a breathtaking red-hot, red carpet beauty while promoting “The DeCameron.”

An integral part of the evolution of her look was the creation of her luscious golden locks that seemed to glisten—reflecting the French Rivera sun directly above.

Celebrity colorist Michael Canale – who is known for creating the color for top celebrities, including Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz and Heidi Klum – updated and enhanced Barton’s look with a light touch of blonde that’s the epitome of “natural” at it’s best.

Canale took Barton’s light brown hue and created a tint that literally “glowed on the red carpet. He said, “For her new look we used golden highlights and sandy tones around her face to bring out her brilliant blue eyes.”

The color is a natural blend of blonde—brighter at the front, which “enhances her look, instead of being a drastic change.”

He also created a bespoke gloss that enhances the color and makes it look like the sun is shining on your hair on the red carpet.

Canale points out that he likes to use glosses because they do a few things. First, they protect the hair and act as a buffer for styling aids and build a barrier to prolong hair color. And second, gloss makes hair look fabulous with camera lighting–and is sure to make you a red carpet darling too.

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Resolving Bothersome Issues

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak™©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication. Lives of Style is committed to helping you achieve your own best style–in fashion, beauty and in life.

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Mary: My husband wakes up 4 to 5 times a night to check on the stock market, go to the bathroom, pet the dogs and generally fiddle around our bedroom. I’ve tried to get him to stop, or lessen the number of wake-ups, but he refuses and says that he is a light sleeper and has a lot on his mind. Trouble is, I’m a light sleeper too. And I’m exhausted most days. What can I say to him?

Laura: You can say, “Honey, I want to talk with you about something that has become challenging for me. Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, ‘Yes,” then you can say, “I know you are a light sleeper, have a lot on your mind, and it works for you to perform certain activities upon your awakenings throughout the night. Having said that, I want to share with you that I am also a light sleeper, and unfortunately I wake up every time you are awake and going about your nightly activities. I am not telling you this with the intention to assign blame. I am sharing this with you because the frequent sleep interruptions I am having are causing me an overall feeling of exhaustion. I want to respect your needs, and I also want to make sure I am getting the rest that I need. I do not know how to resolve this fairly so that we both get our needs met. What are your suggestions on how to solve this?”

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak™©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication. Lives of Style is committed to helping you achieve your own best style–in fashion, beauty and in life.

Lives of Style and Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak™©2016 want to facilitate answers to questions. While Lives of Style’s authorities in different categories may not be able to email each of you individually, select questions will be answered.

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Our Lives of Style relationship authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Mary: I have been in a relationship for 10 years with my boyfriend and his behavior has been strange lately–he’s been cold and removed and says condescending things about me. I saw his phone charging and I unlocked it and looked at his text messages–and I saw some flirty texts to another woman and a picture of her on his phone. I’m in shock–sad and mad. I don’t want to be with a cheater. He is living with me in my house and I don’t know if I can throw him out even if I want to–what can I say to him?

Hard Relationship Talks Made Easy

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication. Lives of Style is committed to helping you achieve your own best style–in fashion, beauty and in life.

Lives of Style and Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 want to facilitate answers to questions. While Lives of Style’s authorities in different categories may not be able to email each of you individually, select questions will be answered.

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Our Lives of Style relationship authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Laureen: I have a basic question about how to break up with someone. My boyfriend is not “it” for me. I care about him but I want to say, “Good-bye.” I’ve cut down our time together to barely once a week, and told him I don’t feel we have a future, but he says, “I’ll take what I can get.” What can I say?

Laura: It is clear that you have been upfront and honest with this gentleman, and his response indicates that he has been willing to continue to date you knowing that he don’t see a future with him. Having said that, if you are 100% certain that you do not want to consider a future with this man and are ready to end it, then you can say, “I want to talk with you about something that feels sensitive to me to say and may also be sensitive for you to hear regarding us. Is now a good time?” Wait for him to say, “Yes.”  Then you can say, “I respect you, and I think you are a very good man. I appreciate all of the dates you have taken me on and the time you have spent with me. I want to be honest and tell you that I have reached the place where I am certain that as much as I like you as a person, I do not have the romantic chemistry and feelings necessary to continue to accept dates with you. I want to move forward to find the right man for me. I also sincerely hope you find the right woman for you. What are your thoughts about what I am telling you?”

Overcoming Relationship Hurdles

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication. Lives of Style is committed to helping you achieve your own best style–in fashion, beauty and in life.

Lives of Style and Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ™ ©2016 want to facilitate answers to questions. While Lives of Style’s authorities in different categories may not be able to email each of you individually, select questions will be answered.

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Our Lives of Style relationship authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Kiki: If I’m at a baseball game and a guy tips his hat toward me, is he saying, “Hello?” Can I speak with him next?

Laura: His hat tipping is an acknowledgement from him to you that he sees you and wants to make some level of contact. A good response would be to smile back while holding eye contact for at least 5 seconds. You could add in a cute little wave of your hand as you do that. This will indicate to him that you are receptive to his approach if he wants to take the lead and come over and start a conversation with you. Everything is energy based, and the person who initiates the first conversation is assuming the leading (masculine energy) role. Most people are unaware of the strong impact this has on the dynamic that follows in a romantic relationship.

Another thing to keep in mind is that you have no idea whether or not this man is in a relationship and just happens to be a flirt. By responding with a warm smile, eye contact and a little wave you are showing your openness without taking over the lead. If he is single and interested he can approach you. If he doesn’t approach under those circumstances, then there is a reason and that reason may be a commitment elsewhere.

When or If to Let Go

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Lives of Style’s DatingSpeak ©2016 addresses questions about Dating, Relationships and Communication.

Our Lives of Style authority–Laura Pugliese, shares must-know dating “Do’s and Don’ts” that will help you find success in your relationships.

Jane: I am in love/lust with a superstar businessman. He’s young, handsome, super-successful, a multi-millionaire, travels the world, is famous in his field and respected by politicians, leaders in this country and abroad and is just about the nicest guy ever. We have been dating for about 18 months. He calls me twice a week and texts me about three times and we see each other every other week. The problem is, when I asked him where he saw this going, he said he “wasn’t sure he ever wanted to get married or have children” and that he “didn’t see” himself in a committed role leading to monogamy anytime soon. I’ve already slept with him, and I’ve tried to limit seeing him to wean myself from him–but everyone else I see pales in contrast with him. Is there anything I can say to get him to commit, or to say to myself, to move on?

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