Starting the New Year with Mr. Right: Success Strategies

Man and Woman Talking

Lives of Style is proud to introduce our NEW “Dating-Speak” ™ ©2013 Authority: Laura Pugliese.

Laura–formally trained at the WANT Institute by the pre-eminent relationship therapist–Dr. Pat Allen, is a Certified Communications Coach–one of  only 100 who have personally studied under Dr. Allen. Laura combines her training, life experience and spiritually-driven gift for manifesting potent communications in interpersonal relationships. Laura teaches her clients how to cut through emotional reactions and communicate rationally with integrity and love.

There are many dating “do’s and don’t’s” and we’ve asked our “Dating-Speak”™ ©2013 Authority–Laura Pugliese, questions about the most effective way to communicate with a masculine man so you attract and entice him.


Lives of Style: Hi Laura! So you’ve proffered great tips on how to attract a man. Now, we’d like to move on to the best methods to secure that date!

Laura: I’m looking forward to providing tips and techniques and what to say starting from the time you’re invited out.

Lives of Style: So–how do you respond when you’re invited out for a date what do you say?

Laura: You say: “Yes, thank you. I would love to. When do you have in mind?”

Lives of Style: If he doesn’t offer you a specific day or a time, do you ask him or do you wait for him to call you and to let you know?


Laura: In this case let it go. You don’t want to chase him. He may be a flake.

Lives of Style: How do you inform your prospective date that you are allergic to or that you don’t eat certain foods? If, for example, you abhor sushi and you are asked out do you say straightaway that you don’t eat fish?

Laura: No. It is not in your best interest to start throwing out negatives. First of all, there are plenty of items in a sushi restaurant that you can eat. If possible, follow the lead on his suggestion.

Lives of Style: What if he asks you to suggest a venue–do you say that you’d prefer he choose or do you suggest something?


Laura: Saying thanks is important.  I suggest saying, “Thank you. As a traditional woman I am most comfortable following the lead and suggestions of a man.”

If you have been dating this man regularly and those boundaries are set you could ask  him, “Am I understanding that you want to delegate the task of choosing a restaurant to me?” Wait for him to answer. If he says, “Yes,”  then ask him if there are any “not wants” and then present him with three different style choices.

Again, this answer is for someone who has already courted you regularly. Sometimes it is okay to choose at this point if they want to delegate

Lives of Style: What do you do if you have a date for Thursday but he doesn’t call to confirm a time and it’s Wednesday night?


Laura: That is not that unusual. When the date is being made say, “I would feel most comfortable if you contact me to confirm our date the night before. What are your thoughts about doing that?”

If you haven’t done that then go through the pain of waiting to see if the date happens.

Lives of Style: What do you do if you have a date for Thursday night and instead of dinner he suggests drinks at 10p?


Laura: That might not feel good to you since he changed the plan.

You can say, “I was really looking forward to the date we made for (insert original time). Although you have every right to make a last minute change, I do not feel comfortable with the new plan with a 10pm starting time for drinks, but thank you for the offer. However, I am open to a different day at the earlier starting time.”

Lives of Style: What do you do if you have a date for Thursday at 7:30pm but he hasn’t let you know where you will be meeting and it’s Thursday morning?


Laura: I say wait until mid day. This is a time when you can text or email to check in with him if you have his contact information.

You can write, Hi ( insert name) I just realized I had us penciled in to meet today at 7:30pm, but I don’t have a place. Where do you have in mind to meet?”

Lives of Style: What do you do if he wants to pick you up at your house or office on the first date?


Laura: It’s important to be safe.  And that means not letting a stranger know where you live.

You could say, “Thank you so much for bring such a gentleman and wanting to pick me up. I do appreciate it, however I don’t feel comfortable being picked up until I have gotten to know somebody better. I hope you understand. What are your thoughts about me meeting you there?”

While Laura may not be able to email each of you individually, she will answer select questions on her weekly blog.


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